A Pudgy Pumpkin Meets Pop Culture

Over the last four years, Chris and I have come to look forward to special holiday traditions. Pumpkin picking and carving are two favourites of ours.

I grew up in a household with parents who loved holidays more than other parents that I knew. We really celebrated and they made the holidays so much more fun. I happily carried this attitude into my adulthood and Chris has enjoyed being a part of the excitement.

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We like to get our pumpkins from Pingle’s Farm, they are local, they have the best prices, and the biggest selection (last year we looked at another farm and immediately went back to Pingle’s).

As adults without children we don’t partake in the other autumn activities that are available at the farm, but families really should! In the past, my mom and I have taken my niece to the petting zoo, bunny hole town/sanctuary, smaller mazes, puppet theatre, hand painted face photo-cut-outs are all really fantastic. Pingle’s is also known for their massive corn fields that feature really creative designs.

Chris and I set out on Tuesday afternoon all smiles, but I was a little cocky about the weather. It was very cold out at PIngle’s, a farm located on a bit of a hill surrounded by a lot of open space. The chilly weather didn’t dampen our spirits, but it definitely put the trip on fast forward as we hurriedly went inside to pay after some humming and hawing over the over-sized vegetables.

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Lori Anne and Brett, rightfully proud of their massive pumpkin!

My friend Lori Anne and her boyfriend Brett got a HUGE pumpkin this year and Chris wanted to try to ‘out pumpkin them.’ Since they’re not next to each other and we don’t have a scale to weigh ours, we can’t be completely sure, but I’d say theirs is the winner!

You can pick your pumpkin at Pingle’s either by choosing from a few heaping piles or by wandering their fields for a little more authenticity. We chose the first because it was cold man! We found ourselves a big pumpkin, then looked for a smaller cuter one for my Yoda decorations (you’ll see), and finally a tiny white pumpkin just for variety. We normally carve our own, but decided to share the big one this year.

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Chris checking out a contender who didn’t make the cut – so many good options!

 

 

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When we got home, Chris wanted to spray them off before bringing them in the house (the adorable clean-freak that he is).

After dinner, Chris and I moved our coffee table aside, laid down the sheets we use as paint drop cloths, grabbed our garbage can and started to think of some jack-o-lantern ideas over some drinks. I sketched some typical face shapes while we watched an old Fresh Prince of Bel Air Halloween episode and Chris carved our lid.

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Suddenly, I thought of (what we consider to be) a brilliantly hilarious idea. Chris and I are really into this odd comedy program called The Eric Andre Show (you need a special sense of humour to watch this show – you are now officially warned). Part of the show includes street skits in a style that is similar to those of Tom Green. One of the many skits that we love is one where the actor wears a ridiculous outfit, carries/drinks a bottle of ranch salad dressing, and shouts “Ranch it up” or “Legalize Ranch.” Like small children, we proudly began our pumpkin carving joke.

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We emptied the pumpkin of its gook and guts pretty quickly. For someone who considers themselves quite artistic, I’m quite average at carving pumpkins. We use a regular steak knife and are moderately sloppy. Let’s just say that many toothpicks get used to repair designs that get cut off and we’re very okay with that.

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We wanted to include a bottle of ranch dressing next to our pumpkin, but don’t really use it so we used an empty bottle, took the labels off, put less than an inch of baseboard paint in it and shook to our hearts content.

No, our pumpkins aren’t exceptional works of art, but they’re a lot of fun. More importantly, we have a lot of fun while working on them.

Tuesday night was memorable, we both really enjoyed ourselves, and it was one of those times that reconfirmed our love for each other. We’re best friends who like to laugh and hang out.

What did you carve into your pumpkins this year? Let me know!

Until next time, Ranch it up!

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Chris totally called out the #Memberberries in the background of one of the Fresh Prince episodes (Member berries are from the current season of South Park that’s airing now)! PS. Give him a follow on Instagram!
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Try a Little Tinder-ness: Outsider Observations on the Dating App

(I recommend that you listen to Try a Little Tenderness by Otis Redding while reading this post)

I met my husband Chris just over four years ago and we married this year, Chris at 32 and myself at 25, but many of our friends have profiles on Tinder.

“Today, if you own a smartphone, you’re carrying a 24-7 singles bar in your pocket.” – Aziz Ansari (TIME’s adapted excerpt from Modern Romance)

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Cover of Aziz Ansari’s Modern Romance. I also recommend his show Master of None on Netflix.
Tinder is a popular online-dating app that was released a month or two after I started dating Chris so neither of us have used it personally. Not only has our relationship lasted for over four years, but somehow so has this application! I find Tinder fascinating which is why I was excited when one of my best friends downloaded it recently.

HOW IT WORKS (for those out of the loop like me):
You use your finger to swipe through the very concise online dating profiles that present a small number of photos and even less information about the person. If you swipe the profile to the left it means you’re not interested, a swipe to the right means that you are and you hope that they swipe right on you to make a match (if you swipe up it is a ‘super like’).

Our friends range from approximately 23-43 and come from a variety of walks of life. I have heard more about the Tinder experience from my male friends than the females and they never have rave reviews. I often hear that “Tinder is great for women, but terrible for men” or “It’s so much harder for guys on Tinder.” Generally, in terms of connecting through conversation, getting more matches, and having more options, I think that this is true (but this doesn’t account for all the creeps that need to be subtracted from the average woman’s message box).

My male friends consistently say that the worst part of Tinder is that girls who seem interested drop off the face of the Earth without being honest about why. My female friend who has had the recent success with Tinder said that most guys she talked to were genuinely surprised to get her responses because “most girls don’t talk on Tinder.” I have heard that some users create Tinder profiles to get more Instagram likes or even just to boost their own egos. Natalie Wolchover states what we all know, that the physical distance makes it easy to be mean online or at least easier to avoid doing the right thing.  

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Promotional poster for Meet the Patels.
After watching Meet the Patels on Netflix about six months ago (I loved this movie), I connected the similarities between arranged marriage practices and online dating. They are pretty similar with the questionnaires, profiles, and filtering systems (Aziz Ansari also makes this connection in his book Modern Romance that I hope to read soon) – they mainly differ in the sense that one has an actual paper trail instead of a digital footprint. It’s the technological aspect that allows Tinder user experiences to remain detached and dehumanized, two elements that make it easy to ignore messages or avoid telling the truth about how you feel.

Kate Hakala describes why over half of “location-based dating app users” are men. She compares Tinder to gaming apps, this assessment is based on the finger swiping – Hakala claims that men are just trying to beat the odds.

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In 2014, Nick Bilton, of the New York Times, wrote that “men are nearly three times as likely to swipe ‘like’ (in 46 percent of cases) than women (14 percent).” My male friends and I have joked about how often times guys (including them) seem to swipe right for ‘like’ without even looking at the profiles that scroll past. They’re more likely to get matches this way – they can sort through their options later if they swipe ‘like’ now.

Whether they are swiping right like mad, as if they’re hitting that N-64 A-button as fast as they can, or they are legitimately more open minded, I wonder, do these swipe-happy males care more about quantity of matches over quality?

But what if the goal of the game is less about your quick finish time and more about your high score?

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My female friends who use Tinder have both good and bad things to say. For example, my aforementioned friend who recently downloaded the app changed her main profile photo after being less than impressed with her options on the first day – BAM matches were flying in. Once she had chosen a sultrier photo she was quickly matching with guys that she deemed as more attractive, however, more matches also meant that the amount of ‘creeps’ increased as well – by this I mean guys who open with “What’s your favourite position?” instead of a polite hello.

I was blown away by how fast the list of cute guys she matched with grew. It’s been a little more than a week and it actually seems like she found a keeper already! If she has, of course, in due time she will remove her profile from Tinder and there will be one less female user for the statistics.

Now this is the story of an attractive girl in her early twenties, but my friends in their 30s haven’t had the same luck.

A couple of years ago, I went to my friend Lori Anne’s house for a girl’s night. Lori Anne and I both had serious boyfriends, but her three single friends were talking about how hard finding the right guy was. I don’t remember what I had said, but I clearly recall one girl biting my head off. She told me that my opinion didn’t count because I was in my twenties and that I had no idea how hard it was for older women. I laughed at how rash of a statement it was, but I find myself wondering how true it might be.

My early-twenty-something friend found that the number of guys interested was overwhelming for her, whereas my friends in their thirties finds that options are sparse. This leads to questions such as is Tinder ageist? Is the offline dating game ageist too? What other prejudices does the app enable?

I think Tinder sounds like fun, but everyone should be aware of abuse within the system including fake profiles for advertisements, general misuse, and catfishing.

I know people who have married after meeting on online dating sites like Plenty of Fish, but do you know any long-term commitment success stories from couples who have met on Tinder?

Let me know some of your experiences and enlighten me on the world of Tinder.

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PS – What’s way better than Tinder? The All Paws app that matches you to adoptable dogs!