Facebook’s On This Day feature loves reminding us about things we don’t always want to think about. Frequently, they remind me of my dead dog, my dead grandmother, or to change the privacy settings to “only me” on a lot of old photo albums, but today was different!
Today’s On This Day photo was from a seven-year-old Facebook album with photos of a day trip my mom and I took in 2010. At 19, I had never been to Kensington Market and was vintage-clothes-obsessed so I knew I had to go. My mom and I took the Go-Train into Toronto and explored the Kensington Market streets together (my mom brought her digital camera [neither of us had smart phones yet]), getting smoothies, browsing retro jewelery collections and racks of vintage dresses. That day I bought a 1960’s dress, a 1940’s turquoise hat, and a tie-dye Twiggy print tshirt (I still own the last two).
I remember this day quite well and it’s because my mom and I had such a great time! I’m lucky to have a mother who I also consider a friend. I feel like we’re even closer now than we were seven years ago and it’s probably thanks to adventures like these – I appreciate our time together (even if this appreciation is amplified in retrospect!).
One month from today marks Chris’ and my one year anniversary (married… it’s unfortunate that the four years together pre-marriage get thrown aside for tracking)!
This meant that today’s throwback thursday post was an easy choice. The above photo was taken the moment after Chris and I had officially been declared husband and wife. I had just finished crying after going second in reading our personal vows and Chris had kissed the bride. We walked back up the aisle to a major Chris song (that I also like) called You Make My Heart Beat Faster by The Distillers, you should give it a listen and then take another look at the featured photo above. We had so much fun at our wedding and it was very us – thrifty and quirky!
They say that the first year of marriage is the hardest, but I wonder if that’s changed since people have started living together more commonly as unmarried couples. Chris and I had two years or so in the house before we got married so it’s not like we needed to get used to each other or were learning about each others’ habits. Our wedding was less like a new beginning to an adventure and more like the third chapter in a novel that has already built a foundation to build a story around.
Wherever we are in our unwritten novel, we’re doing really well. We are just as in love as ever, but what’s more important is that we’re still best friends who watch comedy
specials while drinking bourbon or play board games competitively together. We have fun and appreciate our time together – we also know that no ones perfect and that honest communication is key.
We’ve known each other for almost five years now and expect to continue to learn from our shared experiences (especially mistakes). Just because we’ve been married for a year doesn’t make us experts, but who’s to say that we’re not doing it right? We’re doing what’s right for us and that’s all I hope my loved ones do for themselves too!
Chris and I are headed to visit my sister and brother-in-law who live 4 hours from us this weekend to celebrate Canada Day! I can’t wait to see my sister Heather (named after my late grandmother from my moms side), we’ve grown so close as adults!
Having a sister who is only 19 months older than me has been pretty awesome! When I was a kid everyone thought we were twins and we always had someone to play with. We would bring barbies and toys to quench our ever-thirsty imaginations to our brothers hockey or my dads baseball games.
Eventually Heather and I played hockey ourselves and every other year we’d be in the same age division! She played right wing and I played left. If you’ve seen us play pictionary together then you know that we can read each other’s minds and that we work well as a team!
As teenagers we became a bit more private and a bit moodier with each other, but we still had a ton of laughs. We shared a deep love of all things television and movies – we often quote things that only each other understands.
Adult Heather and Cassy are doing really well too. We’re 4 hours apart, but miss each other all of the time. On top of television and movies, Heather and I share a love of romantic comedy novels that we trade back and forth! I love having such a great big sister, we were each other’s maids of honour at our weddings and in this last photo we stood with our brother as our father’s grooms party for his wedding last year!
Heather has been, and will always be, my partner in crime no matter how far apart we are. When we get together, it’s like we still share bunk beds and she still threatens bullies for me – our bond is ever lasting and we’ve got each other’s backs.
Don’t mess with us… we’re the Goulding Girls and we’re a lot tougher than a couple of old ladies from Florida!!!
The two main photos I’ve shared were taken about eight years apart on two separate, but significant days in my life.
The first is of myself and my dad before my grade twelve prom. I was going through a really hard time emotionally at this point of teenage-hood, but am so happy to have photos to remind me of all the positives in my life back then too. Sometimes it’s easy to remember the bad, but this photo has sat on my dresser (a few different dressers) for the last eight years and reminds me of how close my dad and I are. He was so proud of his dolled up tomboy!
The second photo is from my wedding last August! It was fun, exciting, and exhausting. I love the photos I have with my parents and it’s fun to compare them to photos like the one from prom where so many years have passed. I can’t wait to see another photo among these two in eight more years!
I love my dad very much and am lucky in life to have a dad who loves me too. Not everyone is so lucky and I really start thinking about family dynamics as Father’s Day approaches.
I look forward to celebrating Father’s Day with him this Sunday and snap some photos on all the other milestones we’ll come across in life.